Does your fear of change override your good intentions to achieving your goals?

Fear and Resistance to change is normal and even beneficial. It must be expected and acknowledged.

Taking that leap of faith is risky, and you will only take active steps toward the unknown if you genuinely believe – and perhaps more importantly, feel – that the risks of standing still are greater than those of moving forward in a new direction.

"And the day came when the risk it took to remain tight inside the bud was more painful than the risk it took to blossom". - Anais Nin

Change is all about taking a risk. We become and like to remain connected to what we know and are familiar with – even at times to our own detriment. For most people, seeing is believing. I’d like you to change your mind set to’ Believing is Seeing’. As Henry Ford said, “Whether you believe you can or believe you can't, you are right.”

Changing your mindset/beliefs from the ‘I can’t do it!’ – to ’How can I do it?’ - can go a long way toward overcoming your fears and resistance to change. You might feel that you won’t be able to make the transition because you don’t think you can. You may also feel overloaded, overwhelmed and fatigued by the stresses of daily life.

Fatigue can really block your change effort, for example, you believe you should quit drinking alcohol, but you’ve got a challenging career going, you are a single mom with two teenagers to keep up with and therefore can easily put off your personal health improvement (until your first heart attack or cancer scare, when suddenly the risks of standing still seem greater than the risks of change!).

Are you one of the people with a healthy scepticism who want to be sure that new ideas are sound?

Fears and doubts can also block your change effort because they are part & parcel of the negative beliefs you hold about yourself -- that you don't deserve love or success and a wonderful future, that you are not good enough, that you are powerless -- or beliefs about life -- that life really is about effort and struggle.

Fears, doubts and resistance to change is a scary place to be – What lengths will you go to to cover them up, banish or escape them? Over indulgence in alcohol, cigarette smoking, food, drugs, overwork?

What is the message you are giving your children?

Consider healing your life as the biggest gift you can give anyone, most of all yourself.

In Gratitude
Annette

www.paradigmshifttraining.com

How come TIME hasn’t healed your PAIN?

How come your body is able to regrow new skin and new tissue or repair broken bones after an accident, attack or as a result of physical abuse and you are still carrying the painful thoughts and memories? What is it that has not healed in spite of the TIME factor? Why is it still raw and sore as if it happened yesterday - what is it that causes the continuation of the pain and makes forgiveness virtually impossible?

The answer lies in the fact that we have two bodies – we have a physical body as well as an energy body.

The physical body grows and lives in the mechanical universe and the energy body lives in a timeless quantum space where now and yesterday are no different to 10 or 20 years ago.

What happens during the injury/abuse is that the energy body also sustains injuries the same as the physical body. The physical body is able to regrow new skin and new tissue and completely heal its wounds over time leaving only a faint scar, whereas time does not heal the energy body and neither does the medicine that was used. The energy body remains unhealed, leaves invisible scars and continuously sends out messages and reminders of pain via feelings and emotions that seem to come from nowhere, and is often misunderstood. The message the energy body is conveying is that it wants those injuries healed.

How do you heal your energy body - the emotional wounds of your past?

All the energy body needs is simply healing energy and intention to repair those wounds, restore equilibrium and peace of mind - and because it isn't bound by time - it can and does respond virtually immediately to any healing energies being given. Energy healing such as Reiki, Touch for Health, EFT – Emotional Freedom Techniques and Body Talk are all powerful healing modalities that can be applied – all making forgiveness very possible.

So when you were injured it’s possible that there was no-one to heal your energy body. The focus and intention of the healing at the time was on the physical body alone - understandably.

Think of all the injuries in your life and that of your family and children – have you taken care of healing the energy bodies of each and every one?

It's really not that difficult, we can give you the tools to heal yourself.

In gratitude
Annette
www.paradigmshifttraining.com

Thoughts on Parenting

The way you ‘parent’ your child determines not only the child’s future but also that of society. Many parents and teachers are experiencing children or learners as uncooperative, irresponsible, disconnected, unassertive and therefore victims of child abuse, bullying, peer pressure (to take drugs), doing things to please others, etc.

You have a choice.

You can change the way you raise your child. You can raise your child to be cooperative, you can teach him or her how to ‘take responsibility’ for their actions, behaviour and experiences, to be ‘at cause’ in their lives instead of ‘in effect’ of situations and be ‘the victim’ as they blame and/or please everyone for fear of rejection.

When a child grows up with constant criticism, being threatened, put on guilt trips, punishment, withholding love and affection – fear is created in the child. Most children react to fear by fleeing, fighting or freezing. Fleeing behaviours include blaming others, lying, running away, being defensive, argumentative, refusing to do things, talking back or simply giving up. They give up who they are in order to avoid rejection and as a way to protect themselves. Fear destroys their spirit and robs them of their courage, spontaneity, joy and loving themselves.

In order to ‘fit in’ with their families and be ‘a good child’, they start to ignore their own needs, keep quiet and give away their power. As adults they will be unable to ask for what they want and need and thereby violate their own integrity and do whatever it takes to ‘fit in’, belong and secure their status as a ’good person’. They will feel desperate and powerless and will become the proverbial doormat in order to avoid confrontation and the possibility of rejection.

In their desperation to be liked, they become this ‘nice person’ constantly seeking acceptance and approval, sacrificing themselves to please everyone as their way to feel accepted, wanted and worthy. When they do this, they make other’s needs more important than their own and in the process they forsake their power and joy and start to build resentment towards the very people they try to please all the time.

I invite you to reflect on your child’s upbringing. Breathe deeply and go within and ask yourself these important questions:
· In raising my child - is my child growing up as an empowered human being who is able to take responsibility for his/her life, can stand up for themselves, love themselves, believe in themselves, honour themselves, their needs and desires, trust themselves enough to follow their hearts and to do what they know is in their own best interest?
· How was I raised?
· Am I ‘cause’ in my life or am I ‘in effect’ (victim) of what life dishes up for me?

You do have the power; possibly you just need the skills? Contact me if you need support.

In Gratitude
Annette
www.paradigmshifttraining.com