Announcing an Exciting 4 part series on Loving Your Self

To love oneself is the beginning of a life-long romance.

Oscar Wilde

As you read every word of this short newsletter series on SELF LOVE, you will certainly begin to discover breakthroughs in all aspects of your life. Imagine yourself experiencing great improvement in your communication with your children, your partner and your boss. Imagine attracting more loving relationships. Imagine greater job satisfaction and huge improvement in your health. Yes! You are feeling a deep sense of well-being and abundance in your life.

If I could give you the tools to understand the reasons for, and disadvantages of lack of SELF LOVE and then HOW TO embark on a wonderful healing journey to experience the power of loving yourself, would you be interested? Of course!

Apparently, one of our most challenging journeys is the journey of LOVING OURSELVES. Clearly, this appears to be one of the most difficult journeys of our lives and may certainly be the greatest and most important love some of us will ever experience in this lifetime.

Why is this so and what actually is self-love?

By the time you finish reading these newsletters, you will have learned the secret and the power of SELF LOVE.

It surprises me when I ask people if they love themselves, most of them would say yes. However, when I encourage them to explore this question at a deeper level and ‘go within’ to examine their real feelings about themselves, they are quite shocked when they discover what’s really going on. They often have this to say to me: ‘I am my own worst enemy’. ‘I don’t trust myself; I constantly judge and criticize myself and sometimes even punish myself. I have no compassion for myself, and I don’t take loving care of myself – my looks, the way I dress, my health’……….

Let me ask you. What is coming up for you right now? Do you experience a huge amount of SELF LOVE? Or do some of or similar thoughts come up for you such as below.

Allow yourself to be open… Do you hear yourself saying ‘I could lose some weight, have a smaller nose, drive a better car, and have a more exciting life’? Are you often angry with yourself and do you judge and criticize everything you do? Are you a perfectionist? Do you abuse yourself and does your life ever work?

Do you struggle with the concept of loving yourself?

Wouldn’t it be amazing if you could just simply fall in love with yourself? You know what I mean, don’t you? Just imagine what it would be like if you did…Clearly! You would experience some magic starting to happen in your life. Yes? Wouldn’t that be just plain awesome?

Ask yourself this question: ‘What do I believe about myself’? You might be surprised when you discover how many times you hear yourself say all or some of the beliefs below.

· I am not good enough,

· I don’t deserve,

· I don’t matter,

· Nobody likes me,

· I’m unwanted – my mother never wanted me,

· I’m a mistake,

· I’m useless,

· Nobody cares about me,

· I should have been a boy/girl

· I’m too fat

· I’m too thin

· I’m unlovable

Any connection? (These thoughts are all lies created by the mind to maintain our artificial sense of limitation. All feeling states are generated from within. More about this later.) And you begin to notice that there are very few people who do not verbalise these thoughts/beliefs at least once a day.

There’s never been a better time for me to share with you what self-love is all about.

It’s so simple…. Self-love is simply and largely a matter of unconditional self-acceptance and self-approval with self-appreciation and compassion for oneself thrown in.

Stop and ask yourself this key question: Why do we have this difficulty with loving ourselves? Listen to your own thoughts. You want answers and you want it now. Ask yourself where you will be 6 weeks from now if you start to love yourself. Amazing hey?

It’s important to understand that when you were growing up you were constantly bombarded by the well-meaning comments and points of view of the people around you, especially your parents. You had to listen to their attitudes and belief systems and obey what they were saying to you. Here are a few examples. Let’s examine if you resonate with any of them. Do they remind you of other statements you heard?

Just let yourself drift back in time and re experience your feelings when you heard them say:

· Children should be seen and not heard,

· You will never amount to anything

· Shame on you

· I am just not going to put up with you anymore

· I have told you a thousand times

· After all I have done for you

· I have worked two jobs just to support you

· You embarrassed us today

· Big boys don’t cry

· A woman’s work is never done.

· Hard work never hurt anyone

· Money does not grow on trees

· Why can’t you be like your brother?

· There isn’t money for that

· As long as you are under my roof, you will obey the rules!

· I brought you into this life, and I can take you out! And on and on and on!

The most important thing you need to realize is that you made some powerful decisions about yourself and about life as a result of the above messages, and these decisions became your beliefs and these beliefs are controlling your life today! The good news is that once we become aware of why we behave in the way we do and why we treat ourselves in the way we do, we can change it.

Imagine what it would be like if you could discover what it would feel like if you could transform all these old habitual negative thoughts that’s keeping you stuck and unable to walk on clouds.


Till next time...

Annette www.paradigmshifttraining.com